How can you get teachers to do what you need for your child? Advocating for our child/student/client is vital, but can be difficult and counterproductive when done wrong. Here's how to do it.

Here’s a powerful tip to help lower the tension and flip the script from a moment of tension to a moment of positivity. The concepts and techniques can also be tweaked for many other situations. "My son has an anger problem. What can I do so that he doesn't continuously lose his cool at everything his brother does?" The key is in making the child feel positive and even proud about his interaction with his brother. Doing this changes the perceived threat to a positive and even a moment of pride. (Anger is a secondary emotion and can have numerous root causes. Even though there are many feelings that can cause an angry reaction, it’s the feeling of being threatened that takes the feeling from its original state to an angry reaction. On some level, the situation in front of us is causing us to feel "I can't deal with this.") For more on my "Indirect Explanation" technique see the video titled How to Get a Struggling Child to Feel Successful using "Indirect Explanation.” https://youtu.be/Amc-UZiyVGU